Continuing with my Life Skills series for Children with my own Personal experiences where I previously wrote on
Helping Children Gain Confidence
Education systems for Children
Today I want to write on Peer Pressure and influences of a School for Children
If you would have read my previous blogs you would have read how the early years of schooling got messed up for my son and then the pain with getting admission in a school.
But just by getting admission in a School, matter does not end there.
If you are living in a Society where there are other children and if all of them are going to a grade A School and if your child is going to a grade B school this is another issue to deal with. As we grow up we mature but there are many who do not and they judge everything with your social status whether it is your profession or it is the school your child goes to or the house decor that you have, or the restaurants you dine out at. These are some hard but real facts which many go through and when parents have this mentality they also pass it on to their children.
Somewhere as my son was growing up, he was feeling this difference of going to a lower grade school in comparison to his friends. Though otherwise he always had the best of whatever he wanted, but I could see the school part was bothering him. When he reached grade 4 and academically he was doing fine he asked me to change his school. I did not have much apprehension about it. Willingly we went with the process and got his school changed, though again here he did not get into the school he desired but it was better then before. And he too settled with it. But it did not stop there. He was continuously aiming at one of the best school in the city where most of his friends went. In class 7 he made a decision of moving and this time he cracked it and he got the admission in the school he desired and finally he looked like really happy. I was happy with his achievements and the way he was excelling in his studies but I would always think what if he could not crack it, then he would have ended up with so much disappointment.
Peer pressure can really be tough for children at times. If you are able to manage or overcome; it is fine, otherwise it can be again a setback for the children. Children want to copy each other because they want to feel the same in their circle. If one child has a grand Birthday party then the other in the circle would also want to do the same. Specially when you live in societies where the Children meet up a lot for play and spending time together all these things come up. And somewhere the Schools should also be responsible for removing these inequalities from Children, They should have standard rules that the child needs to follow. For e.g. for a Child bday if they want to distribute something it should be very small something which is affordable and standard across for each child, or completely banning mobile phones and having similar other practices in school so that there is equality among all the children.
Here my thought is how much ever the parents behave responsibly still this will creep in somewhere.
As a parent it is important to make your child understand these differences and that it is not possible all the time to do everything that another child is doing or getting. But again a sensitive thing right?
The right balance is required while meeting their demands even if it is for peer pressure. Because every time it would not be good enough to deny them, may be not 100% but somewhere in between we need to manage it trying to not make them feel disappointed and also not fulfilling their demands completely.
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