Reaching Out
I was moved to write this story when one of the member in my Txgxthxr Whatsapp Group sent a devastating chat regarding her perfectionist boss.
This Txgxthxr group is founded by a group of Malaysian people who are suffering from depression. This group is mainly acting as a support group to emotionally support anybody who are having their episodes of depression.
I found this group through Facebook when I was looking for a Depression Support group in my country, Malaysia. And one of the admin invited me to join the Whatsapp group, which I immediately agreed on joining.
I've been in this group since early of this year with the purpose of getting to know the society of people who are suffering from depression. As I have started to organised a Self-Love Event under the patronage of Fix You Corporation and Jean's Secret Company, which are greatly supporting the people who are suffering from depression.
So back to the reason why I'm sharing a little story to all #steemians here in #steemit, is because one of the member of the Whatsapp group, told us about her awful boss.
This boss is ...
• A perfectionist
• A narcissist
Perfect combination of a toxic person! How terrible they must have made the situation for the workers to feel unbearable and depressed.
And this brings back to my memories where I myself had personally worked under a perfectionist boss. I was so different than now compared to before, where I would try to please everybody just so that they will take a liking for me, even if it means that I couldn't do it. I was so afraid of rejection.
And because of my past behaviours, this gives a greater chance or opportunity for the perfectionist boss to take more advantage on me. How painful it is to remember that moments again. I was too afraid to voice out my feeling of discomfort because of her high expectations.
When I think all this thoroughly, she is not only a perfectionist. But she also turned out to be a narcissist person because she had successfully made me feel helpless, guilty and in deep remorse. Someone who managed to made another person feel small, worthless and guilty! She belittled me and putting all the blame on me. Have you ever been treated this way?
Based on different human personalities, some would have stand up for themselves and not allowing this incident to further developed. And others (like me) would just suck in the depressed feelings in order not to rebel against the superior.
For people who have the same personality as me, I want you to change the way you are behaving. Stop trying to please your boss. This will only make them want to bully you. You are capable! If your boss is putting you in so much pressure and keep bullying you and belittling you.. then do something about it. Quit your job! Either that or you will continue to suffer. Which will lead to depression in the long run.
Do not take this matter lightly. This is serious. This could lead to depression. Bottled up pressure will lead to serious damage to your mental health. Walk away from situations that are making you feel like a trash. You have your values. This don't only apply to having an awful boss.. but this is also happening in the family. Having a narcissist parents. Anything that could gives your pressure. Even a narcissist spouse. Every human have their own values. Wake up. Open your eyes. And see the situation in clear mind and calm heart. Don't allow this to keep happening to you. Love yourself more.
And if you want to talk about your experience with me. I welcome you to do so. Let me know. Leave a comment. It breaks my heart seeing this thing happening around me. Because I've been there. I lost myself. I forgot my values. I didn't love myself.
The founder of Fix You Corporation, Ms Charlene Jean. The one who has taught me the values of myself. The one who has taught me the deeper meaning of self-love. The one who has changed my beliefs and opened up my eyes to see the bigger picture ❤