Spending Time and Building Connection With Our Children

Hi all, it's Monday and the beginning of another week! So how was your weekend? Was it great? Personally, for me, weekends are full of family time. After rushing to do stuff - working or schooling - during the weekdays, we always try to make time to be with the children. We are not perfect parents and we made (still make) a lot of parenting mistakes we are not proud of but we try to be GOOD ENOUGH parents to our children.

My husband and I attended the Good Enough Parenting workshop and even read the recommended book of the same title. (I wrote a bit about this workshop and some of the thing I learned a while back). We learned a lot of things from this workshop and I do encourage parents, especially those with young children, to attend it too. The trainers are from Singapore, however, currently, there is no workshop scheduled in Kuala Lumpur. The previous workshop in KL was held in October last year. However, if you really want to attend it, there will be one scheduled in Kuching, Sarawak in June this year. You can refer the details below:

The fee is MYR160 per person or MYR280 per couple. I think the fee is quite reasonable, don't you think so?

And here is the preview video of the workshop.

One of the main things I learned from this workshop is about building the connection with my children. When children are connected to their parents/caregivers, they feel completely attached to their parents. They feel belong, accepted and loved unconditionally. When children have this sense of connection they will believe the following messages about their parents:

They value me and want to spend time with me
They miss me when I am away from them
They care about my feelings
They accept and proud of me even I have weaknesses
I am special to them
They respect me
They are honest with me
They believe in my capabilities and want to guide me

So how do we build this precious connection with our children? Well, it's quite simple, we make time to be with them, not just as a family but individually with each child. We free ourselves from things that distract us and focus our attention 100% on our children. Even though it sounds simple, it does take a lot of effort to do it. I admit I do struggle a lot to spend time with my kids because I am just having a hard time to extract myself from my busy-ness. However, I tell myself that I may not see the results now but I will reap the positive outcome in the future when my kids are older.

Do you want to learn how to build a connection with your children? Well, you can join us for a 2-hour FOC parenting class this Saturday. However, the class is for non-Muslims only. You can see the details below. Feel free to leave your comment if you are interested to attend the class.