"My child — the most whimsical and disobedient", - such ideas would probably attend each parent. And when all falls from hands and it is complex to cope with the kid, and even with two or more, advices of psychologists as if evaporate from the head.
This article proposes to find out what is the cause of most problems with your child and consider 4 ways on how to deal with the monster of child disobedience.
Create a secret stunt
Problem. When a child does something in own way and contrary to the parental decree it is naturally. It becomes abnormall only when he does it every time. The possible reason for that the child does not listen to you, maybe that you explain things somewhat unclear to his language.
Decision. Lets assume that the child regularly throws garbage by a trash bin. Show him technics of secret spies how it is done properly,about how it is done properly and the next time offer your child to do everything "as a spy."
Explain to your child that there are different situations
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Problem. Quite often it happens, due to lack of sleep, or other problems in life you don't want to play with the child and to calm him simply because you're exhausted. And for this reason you feel anger and irritation .
Decision. Hint the kid, that you cannot pay to him attention because now it is an unsuitable situation BUT through some short time interval it will pass. The child will not continue to bother you until circumstances changes, not him.
Think of yourself as a child
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Problem.Perhaps there is something that really annoys you in dialogue with your child: joint changings clothes, the combing, the certain gestures or a manner of behaviour.
Decision. If you are angry that the child is naughty while brushing or bathing, think of a time when the way your own mother coped with it brought you to tears. Having considered your problem from this side, you will treat this problem with patience, and even with some humor.
Arrange it with your loved partner
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Problem.In an emergency situation, when you are running late, the meal on a plate burns, the phone rings and as luck would have it, this all happens 5 minutes before the exit or when you just turned away for a moment / gone away on business - you take it out on children.
Decision.In such cases, we should ask for help from other family members. Do a father, who is sweetly snuffling under the cannonade of children shouting and running around, cause in you a smile emotion? Discuss with the husband the order of distribution of duties and algorithm of actions together in similar situations.
It is important to remember, that you can not afford the idea, that he is the reason of all troubles in family, to take root in the mind of your kid and then between parents and children long-awaited mutual understanding will be established and reign.
This is my own translation of this article.