Heartbreak hotel
There is no other pain like a broken heart. The gnawing stomach pains, the insomnia and the constant longing. I myself have been through this like many Steemians on here.
But you are not alone. Enter Friedrich Nietzsche, the great German philosopher to come to our hearts aid.
So, how can Nietzsche's philosophy help ease our pain? Well, one of his greatest ideas is that of our own suffering. Nietzsche believes that it's not our suffering that makes the pain monumental, but rather our 'senseless suffering' of it. That is what truly pains us and makes us cry.
Nietzsche believed that suffering can propel man (or woman!) onto greater things, and that we must believe that our suffering is a natural process of life that allows us to live meaningful lives.
Ever since my own heartbreak last year, I've taken trips overseas to Eastern Europe and Africa, and found delight in dating others, as after the senseless suffering comes the joy. The senseless suffering asked questions like 'Where did I go wrong?' / 'Why did they do this?' / 'Why are they ignoring me?'. After those questions are gone, we try to make peace with our ex-partners after all the hurtful things that 99% of us say immediately after the heartbreak period. It is their choice whether to forgive us or not.
Don't take it personally
Once we overcome this senselessness to realise that people may leave not necessarily because of us personally, but because of the unresolved issues within their own lives, we can be come to realise that there is a seed of hope within our suffering. It's easier to leave than to be left behind as the old saying goes.
The thin line between love and hate means that we may hate our ex-partner for sometime afterwards, but that is never really a long term solution. We can't carry that hot coal of hate forever. When we drop that hot coal after our senseless suffering, we slowly start to realise that we will always love them for the lessons they have taught us. My ex-partner taught me there was a past family issue that I needed to address and resolve - which I did indeed do - but by this time it was resolved it was too late.
At the end of any relationship, if we have sinned against our partner we must take stock, and if not then we must remind ourselves that our partner is as Nietzsche describes '...an ape to men ... a painful embarrassment'. Some partners have yet to mature to overcome themselves despite how much we may truly love them.
Stay happy and stay wise :)