Many people often jump into any venture without thinking twice. If you have come across people who wants to marry at all cost you will understand me well. The desire to have a life partner and probably spend the rest of their life with a beautiful bride or a handsome groom often blind their eyes and their sense of judgement about what to consider before embarking on the marriage journey.
Last week a friend of mine had her wedding and it was really colourful. It was unfortunate I couldn't make it there myself but I had the privileges of seeing those nice moments when she shared her pictures on whatsapp. Marriage indeed is beautiful and honourable. It reminded of the day I got married. It was like the world was all about sweetness and joy, a time where all you feel around you is love, care and beauty. This is a moment those who have married would wish it had never passed. To me it feels like being in heaven when I rekindle those moments.
But there are two sides of every coin and so is life. A little laughter, a little tears, a joyous moment and a sad moment and we face that in every sphere of our life. Aside all the joy that marriage brings to the new couple it also presents challenges .
Marriage is a lifetime commitment and when you enter, it's like you have sold out your freedom, this is not to scare folks who yet to marry thinking that is like a life of slavery. No, that's not what it entails, rather it gives you less chance to do anything you would have done in your single life.
Today I can't make decision alone as it has to communicated to my wife as well since those decision might affect her as well. I can't go anywhere without informing her like I would just go anywhere I choose if was still single besides I have to back on time and avoid keeping long outside. This is because she too is now concerned about my life. There is another thing we call ''a shared responsibility'', if you are together then you must do things together. You are not expected to be the captain of ship but also a paddler. You also propel alongside to keep things going.
Marriage is sweet from the onset and if it should be bitter in the end it all depends on you. It just gets better and better if you learn and put to practice any useful and helpful style of living. There has been many divorce cases in our contemporary would than it use to be in the olden days. This is because many still wants to keep their pride and ego in marriage. A bossy and a domineering attitude don't help marriage last. It rather weakens the marriage.
It is important that people who wants to get married or are married to know their they have a greater responsibility to their partner.
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I will say that it is necessary for youngsters to prepare adequately before thinking about marriage and if their preparation is not adequate then it is better they wait. This is because marriage is a no joke journey to embark. It can make you and unmake you. Seeing this lady friend of mine and her husbands brings joy to me but then that's not as important as how long they are committed to the journey with respect, humility and submission till the end.
许多人经常跳入任何冒险，不用两次思考。如果你遇到过不惜一切代价结婚的人，你就会明白我的意思。渴望拥有一个生活伴侣，并且可能在一个美丽的新娘或一个英俊的新郎的余生中度过余生，在开始婚姻旅程之前，往往会瞎了眼睛和对于要考虑什么的判断感。
上个星期，我的一个朋友举行了婚礼，真的很多彩。不幸的是我不能自己做到这一点，但我有幸看到那些在WhatsApp上分享她的照片的美好时刻。婚姻确实美丽而光荣。这提醒我结婚的那一天。就像这个世界就是甜蜜和欢乐，一个你感觉到周围的时光就是爱，关心和美丽。这是结婚的那一刻，希望它永远不会过去。对我来说，感觉就像在天堂里重燃那些瞬间。
但是每一枚硬币都有两面，生命也是如此。有一点笑声，一点点的眼泪，一个欢乐的时刻，一个悲伤的时刻，我们在生活的每一个领域都面临这样的问题。除了婚姻给新婚夫妇带来的欢乐，也带来了挑战。
婚姻是一生的承诺，当你进入时，就好像你已经卖掉了你的自由，这不是为了吓唬那些还没有结婚的人，就像奴隶制的生活一样。不，这不是它所要求的，而是让你减少在单身生活中做任何事情的机会。
今天我不能单独作出决定，因为它也必须传达给我的妻子，因为这些决定也可能影响到她。我不能在没有通知她的情况下去任何地方，如果我还是单身，除了必须准时回来，避免长时间呆在外面，我会选择我去的地方。这是因为她现在也关心我的生活。还有一件事我们称之为“共同的责任”，如果你们在一起，那么你们必须一起做。你不应该是船长，也不是桨手。你也推动一切事情继续下去。
婚姻从一开始就是甜蜜的，如果它最终应该是苦涩的，这一切都取决于你。如果你学习和实践任何有用和有益的生活方式，它会越来越好。我们现代人的离婚案件比过去有很多。这是因为很多人仍然想要保持他们的骄傲和自我的婚姻。一个专横的态度和霸气的态度并不能帮助婚姻持续下去。这相当削弱了婚姻。
想要结婚或结婚的人知道自己对伴侣有更大的责任，这一点很重要。
我想说的是，年轻人在考虑婚姻之前要做好充分的准备，如果准备不充分，最好还是等一等。这是因为结婚不是开玩笑的旅程。它可以使你和你取消。看到我和这位夫人的夫人和她的丈夫给我带来欢乐，但那并不重要，因为他们承担了多少时间，谦卑和屈服，直到最后。
