Human values: Right conduct (Love in action)-looking back
(For previous human value posts check @Clara-andriessen)
From the reactions I got to the post introducing this human value, and even from my own initiatory reaction, I found out that the words 'right conduct' are not everyones favourites, as they seem to imply some kind of judgement. It is possible that they even make our hair stand on end. 'Right conduct' what is that and who will decide that for me?!!!' The resistance coming up with this question is totally valid as in our evolution we are growing towards human beings that decide for themselves what is wrong and what is right behaviour by listening to our own inner compass. I will recite Mark Twain here once more:
"Laws control the lesser man, right conduct controls the greater one."
Mark Twain
So we are compelled to find out what is 'right conduct' for ourselves. It's a very interesting question that has made me realise that there are that many values inside of me for evaluating what is right conduct and what is not, that are not my own. They come from my culture, my teachers , my parents, siblings and even friends. This journey with this particular human value of 'right conduct' has made me find my answer towards the question: What is freedom, am I free. https://steemit.com/life/@clara-andriessen/the-ecotrain-speaks-what-is-freedom-am-i-free-by-clara-andriessen
My answer in short is this: As long as I am full of values which are not authentic I can not feel free to behave as I see fit according to my own inner compass. There are always voices in my head commenting on what I am doing, making me doubt, or even feel guilty. Don't get me wrong those voices are my own, because I internalised other peoples values in to my life, which may now exit the way they came, as I made up my mind, only my own values are allowed in my own being.
I think, with this, the sub values: responsibility, self confidence and self-sufficiency come in to view. A
I find it the utmost proof of responsibility to own ones own values.
I think self confidence comes when we are at peace with ourselves, which is most probably what will happen if we stop walking around with other peoples values in our system.
Self-sufficiency is what is needed when we are letting go of the need to please others by internalising their values.
When I thought about writing the evaluation post of 'right conduct', I though nothing much happened around it as I had mainly focused on simplicity as I was still not feeling well. But now I see I did more of the sub values then I realised!
So what did focussing on simplicity bring me?
Journeying with simplicity helped me realise that too much adjustment is far from simple. I 'm realy good at adjusting, I can make just about anything work if I really want, (this has also been referred to as my pitbull trait.) But is it what I want? It takes up a lot of energy to do so. What if I just mainly went simply straight ahead the way it comes naturally for me, with only the highly necessary adjustments in direction for the sake of being able to keep company of the people who are important in my life.
I am grateful for my new friend simplicity and will keep him with me on my journey.
Now, what were your experiences? I'm excited to know.
Two more human values to go to complete the five great ones. There will be a new post with a new challenge coming up soon! Keep in touch.
Love Clara
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