How is it that everyone is so successful when I'm not?
This is a very common question you can see more or less everywhere online. Especially when it comes to Freelancing and online business.
How is it that everyone else is so successful, everyone's talking about their great success. I haven't felt so successful yet in my life time. I come here and read about the great things others have accomplished here and in life generally, but don't feel like that's ever going to happen to me. I don't feel jealousy so much as frustration that I can't achieve what they are and wondering how I'm falling short of this mark of success. If you understand, let me know.
I recently answered this question and I thought I'd share it with you steemers too.
And here follows my entire reply:
I can totally relate to you. I've had similar thoughts and feelings too. Several times in my life actually. I won't go into any major details regarding those things as most of the things are in the past, and they should stay there.
However, I lost my father for instance, in late 2012. I was 27 years old. He died in front of me. Do you think I blame myself for this? Do you think I wish that this never had happened? Do you think I would rather have him alive and wished that another man would have died instead of him? -The answer for these three questions are very simple. I would say yes, no matter how many times you ask me this. But that's because I'm selfish. I wouldn't wish any other person that single moment when you take a look at your parent for 2 seconds and realize that he's dead.. And you did everything you could... For nothing.
Life isn't fair.
Not for a single minute.. And I'll give you a perfect quote, from Rocky Balboa:
“Let me tell you something you already know. The world ain't all sunshine and rainbows. It's a very mean and nasty place and I don't care how tough you are it will beat you to your knees and keep you there permanently if you let it. You, me, or nobody is gonna hit as hard as life. But it ain't about how hard ya hit. It's about how hard you can get hit and keep moving forward. How much you can take and keep moving forward. That's how winning is done!”
-Sylvester Stallone, Rocky Balboa
And it's true. What you need to do, is to keep fighting. You won't get a single thing for free. You'll need to spend time, put in effort and make things happen. That's the only way you can reach success.
Do you think I consider myself lucky or successful?
-No I don't. Even though I have personal clients and even though I've been working full time online for the past 4-5 years now.. I don't. I'm not lucky. I don't consider myself successful either. I've earned the things I have today.. I am where I am today because of me and I will keep fighting to reach new goals.
Success stories often comes with big sacrifices..
I'm sorry for this "dark" story, the only intention I have by sharing this, is to make people aware of how success stories works. People have great success, some more than others, but it's not made by a single click or within a minute. Success stories often comes with big sacrifices, blood, sweat and tears too, even though people cuts that specific part out of their stories.
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hitmeasap