In my previous post, I have written why we need to practice self-love. In this post, I will discuss how this can be done. Here are 7 ways how you can love yourself more.
1. Learn To Accept And Love Yourself Just The Way You Are
The more you are comfortable in your own skin, the more you will be able to love yourself. Accept the fact that nobody is perfect and that includes you. Therefore accept and love yourself just the way you are with both your strengths and weaknesses. Look into the mirror, and admire that wonderful face. List out your strengths and work on your weaknesses.
2. Prioritize Time For Self-Care
If your body suffered a cut, you would tend to it immediately to stop the bleeding. However you more likely to be slow in tending to any emotional or psychological wounds that you suffer. Therefore, you must remember to schedule time for emotional healing as well as to engage in activities that make you feel good about yourself. This can be an extra 10 minutes in the morning, to dress well so that you feel good and confident about yourself. For me, I like to listen to motivational talks while I am driving.
3. Be Mindful Of Your Thoughts, Choices And Actions
You talk to yourself all the time in your mind. If you have negative thoughts like “I am not enough” or “I am not able to do it”, shake them lose and let them go. Replace these negative with positive thoughts. To help you going, prepare a list of affirmations that you can read to yourself and or listen to a recording of affirmations.
Thoughts will influence your choices which in turn will influence your actions. If you are mindful of your thoughts, then you are less likely to engage in choices and actions that will harm yourself and others.
4. Choose The Company That You Keep
Life is tough enough without being put down by those around you. Negative people can drain you of both your time and energy. You must also never let anyone’s opinion erode your self-esteem. Therefore you need to choose your friends carefully, friends that care for you and are supportive. Remember that it is okay to say no at times to your friends and do not feel compelled to please those around you. True friends will take time to understand you and not judge you.
5. Forgive Yourself
You are only humans and sometimes you make mistakes. Remember this saying “To Err Is Human, To Forgive Is Divine”. Therefore when you make mistakes or fail, do not beat yourself up and be too hard on yourself. At times, you tend to be your own worst enemy. Show yourself self-compassion, and treat yourself the same way as you would treat your best friend. Look at any mistakes or failures as learning opportunities and move on. Remember that you can take responsibility for yourself without the need to blame yourself.
6. Give Yourself Credit
You need to allow yourself to feel good about your achievements no matter how small or minor they are. Even if others do not appreciate your actions, learn to appreciate them yourself and tap yourself on your shoulder. When I manage to write a post even though I don’t feel like it, I always give myself a tap on my shoulder and say to myself “Good Work”. By doing this, somehow it becomes easier for me to write the next post and in return my self-esteem is boosted.
7. Differentiate Between Your Needs And Your Wants
Your needs are things which are necessary for survival while your wants are things that you desire or things you would like to have but which maybe unnecessary. Remember that needs and wants are not interchangeable and if you concentrate on meeting your wants only, there is a tendency for you to want more and more. Instead you should strive to meet your needs. When your needs are met, you feel more complete, more confident and is in a position to give from a place of abundance rather than to sacrifice from a place of scarcity.
Remember that as with everything else, balance is the key. Please share your ideas on how to love yourself in the comments section. Until I see you again, do take care and remember to love yourself.
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Do check out my previous posts.
Do You Love Yourself? Do You Show Yourself Enough Self-Love?
Escape To St Kidla, Melbourne For An Afternoon Of Fun
Wisdom From My Autistic Son: My Autistic Son ‘s Behavior Maybe Embarassing But I Am Not Ashamed Of Him
Positive Reflections: Don’t Let Your Post Defeat You But Let Your Past Defined You
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Charles