My friend had an affair and his marriage is over. If my partner had an affair, our marriage would be over. Affairs are antithetical to the consent between married couples. They are a breach of trust, which is what makes the marriage wheel go round in my opinion.
I don't want to have an affair, and that's what I mean when I say I want to open my marriage.
Hang on. I know what you're thinking. If I don't open my marriage, does this mean I will have an affair? Absolutely not. As I've said, my commitment is to my husband and what we have together. What I'm saying is I want to share every detail with him.
When I posted my confession that I'd like to try casual sex and polyamory, you gave me some great tips. The most frequent was transparency. You are right.
If I am going to take another sexual partner or engage in casual sex, my man has to be 1) in support of it, and 2) know everything, every feeling, every whisper of good or bad that happens.
So my next question for you is, what are the trickiest parts of transparency? Pitfalls, benefits, etc. If you've already written about it, please drop me a link.
For context: [@honeyscribe/i-ve-never-had-casual-sex-and-i-want-to-open-my-marriage]