Question #11: Do you learn from your mistakes?

A NEW YEAR (A.N.Y.), a new way question series:

On January first, I posted our first article in this series explaining a new way to approach New Year's resolutions. Each day we will explore a different question that challenges us to understand ourselves better. The format will be as follows: I will post the previous day's question with my answer followed by the next day's question for contemplation.

I asked my hubby last night for his thoughts concerning this question and his answer was an incredible gift for it made me think. His response, “What would you define as a mistake?, turned my thoughts in a completely different direction and thankfully so. My mind started to reel about which perspective to choose and I decided that we would use the word that produces the greatest emotional response. We have all had situations in our life that completely backfired and the words, “Was that ever a mistake” are uttered. Here we will briefly touch on a few different paradigms surrounding our relationship with those times in our life and how we perceive them.

Are we destined to fail?

The first paradigm we will visit convinces our minds that our origin is faulty. Our flawed character can be traced back through multiple generations to the founders that started this whole mess. Since that time, we are pre-programmed to consistently make mistakes and every day and in every way we are powerless against this state. We cannot change our destiny without the help of an outside source, a redeemer if you will. Here, in this paradigm, we do everything wrong and we behave badly or make mistakes because we were born that way.

Time-out

With this next paradigm there is a slight shift in understanding. Here we relate to the mistake in a more mature manner for we see a slightly bigger picture of the mishaps in our life. This perception believes that things happen as a teaching tool with a lesson hidden in it. A parental figure, so to speak, is directing the show and allows these “negative” experiences to occur for us to learn from. They are meant as a nudge in the right direction. Much like the time when we were children and put in a corner for us to contemplate our actions, these lessons are designed as a time of reflection. The hope is that there is a dawning towards our behavior and the possible sense of accountability for it.

Cliche Time

With this paradigm, we continue to have the perception that our reality is caused by outside forces but we have a more balanced look at the highs and lows of our life. Each event that happens is all part of a master plan for us to become a better version of ourselves. That realization gives us a brief sense of relief but leads us to a deeper question that remains unanswered… WHAT PLAN? Despite this momentary sense of direction, we still can feel like a raft floating aimlessly on a vast sea, braving the storms as the waves toss us from one direction to another.

Mistake... or not a mistake… that is the question.

Welcome to a brand new paradigm where we are the creators of our reality and we have a better understanding of the unsavory events in our life. As stated on the CD series produced by Kevin Trudeau, “Your Wish is Your Command”, those times are meant for celebration. There are times in the middle of a crisis that I could tell Kevin what to do his CD’s but it has caused me to stop and think. The premise behind the celebration is that you are given a golden opportunity for change. The reality you are experiencing is a perfect example of what you don’t want and is a direct result of a thought pattern. The strategy for change entails addressing the toxic thought pattern and making some adjusts to focus on what you DO want. This simple formula will change your reality. I have experienced this first hand and have witnessed it in others. Mistakes are now no longer mistakes; they are thankfully manifestations of what is holding you back.

Did this response resonate with you? I would love to hear your take on the question and how it impacted you. Please post your thoughts below.

Tomorrow's question: Are you permitting a relative or friend to worry you?

Response posted tomorrow.

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