Did you ever noticed after a conversation that all you spoke about was what you do? How about when you both talk about your lives and nobody really listened to each other?

What is happening here is the emotion of pride. You want others to hear you speak about what you did or are going to do. This gives you the feeling of importance and acceptance.

I use to be terrible socializing until a friend started to point out what he was feeling/seeing when talking with me. When you are stuck in this pattern it is tough to shake. You think you are contributing, listening, and being great at connecting but you are unaware that great conversation does not just come from speaking.

Great conversations, friendships, and expanded knowledge all come from excellent listening skills. The flow of the conversation will be smooth and comfortable when you are leading by setting examples through listening and asking questions.

Not only will this make conversation better but there are a few more amazing points to recognize here. When you listen and talk about others interests rather then your own, you open up a whole new world for yourself.

You start to open up possibilities of new business opportunities, learn about new ideas that will give you more ideas for yourself, create real bonding relationships, and create patterns that will define your success in the real world. One way to survive and flourish in this world and in any environment for over thousands of years, is to connect with other communities to learn and prosper. Same rule applies for connecting with just 1 person.

When you are only talking about your problems, expectations, accomplishments, desires, ect... You are never learning anything new! No wonder so many people are not going anywhere in there life... All they do is talk about the same thing over and over again. How can you gain new perspective? Have new goals? More confidence? The list goes on....