When we are faced with problems or misfortunes, we often find it easy to blame someone or something for it. But going around pointing fingers wouldn't solve the problem at all, it will only hurt others, ruin relationships, make you angry, keep you from finding solutions and creates an unproductive life.
Blaming might be a way of projecting emotions, but most times it produces nothing but distractions. We lose focus on what we are supposed to channel our energy to.
I remember once when I needed to go somewhere really early and I stayed up really late at night which made me wake up later than I had planned to, instead of getting ready quickly, I stayed blaming everyone in the house for not waking me up early. And well, I ended up living the house much late than I would have. I wish I had known better!
That might actually be a trivial matter but well, it all starts small. When we don't learn to stop that from when it is just "small" it grows and become a great source of limitation to us.
Not blaming others doesn't mean you should blame yourself, blaming yourself will equally be a futile effort. It doesn't matter who receives the blame, the effect of blame on you remains the same. And its nothing close to being positive (at least not most of the time).
The best way to win the blame game is not to play it at all
Learning to accept responsibility should be the first (and maybe most important) step we should take in curbing the blame game when we accept responsibility, we tend to find solutions more instead of dwelling and letting ourselves get overwhelmed by the problem. Let seek to solve problems and not dwell in them by pushing blames.
We should be conscious of our attitude so we can be aware once we start pushing blames on people, things or even ourselves. That way, we will be able to take the necessary steps so as to stop it.
Sometimes we can't help but blame people, authorities, situations around us etc. But when we do that, let it be so you can find out the underlying problem and make a change. Blaming without figuring out the problem and trying to find solutions is as futile as trying to push a wall with your hands (no work is done).
Don't live blaming yourself or living in guilt for the things you have done or the problem you face, and don't blame others as well. If we wanna live a productive and happy life, then, I believe we will need to stop blaming either ourselves or people.
Much Love, Audrey
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