Friends. We can't live in this world alone.
I mean we could, but it would be a lonely darn place.
Hard topic to share
I fought back and forth on whether or not I wanted to discuss this topic. I know from talking with quite a few people that maybe this is something that needs to be discussed at least a little bit. Check out my vlog and continue to read this post for stuff that isn't included.
Vlog on Friendship:
Friendship as an adult can be hard
Personally, I have moved so many damn times. So everywhere I go I have to meet new friends. Not always as easy as it seems. I have met quite a few people that I have connected with over the years, but very few that end up staying permanently as friends, mainly because we just live far from each other, have nothing in common really tying us, or to be honest we weren't really friends, to begin with, more of just "proximity friends". When I say I have moved a lot I mean on average I move once a year. For the first time in my adult life, I have lived in one place for longer than that, which is now. However, whether you more or you stay it can be the same difficulty. We can often find ourselves feeling lonely or with no one to really connect to because the friends we have are not necessarily quality friends.
Internet Friends count as Friends.
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If Steemit has taught us anything, Friends are Friends, no matter where you are or they are. I will be honest, I met my husband online. I got a chance to connect with him a bit on there and then we hit it off and have been together ever since (with ups and downs of course but we are sharing a life together). However, not once did I really ever search to meet new Friends on the internet. I had this silly misconception at times that these people would not really be Friends. I could not have been more wrong. You know why? Because first of all even the fact that people are on Steemit is a commonality, so Yay! First thing in common out of the way. Secondly, this is a site to blog on, so you are literally learning about people, reading about people, seeing who they really are. Thirdly and lastly, I have found that honestly, I get to know people a bit quicker on here. I think partly the reason for that is the fact that they can feel comfortable typing it out, taking their time, and for some maybe not even seeing other people's faces makes them more comfortable. I feel like when it comes to being in person people can get some misconceptions about how they should be in front of others and the face they need to show. Often times I find people tend to be more themselves when they are able to write out what they want to say.
Proximity Friends are an option, but it doesn't necessarily point to quality.
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I am a stay at home mom. We are a one car family by choice so of course, I am home the majority of the time. We also live in a neighborhood so my kid can play with other kids outside. We were one of the first people that moved in on our street as we are in a new development which is only a few years old now. So, when we finally had more kids moving in around us it was like kids in a candy store, for all of us. We had very excited neighbors wanting to make friends with us and everything so it was fun. However, we were making friends in the mode of proximity only. Our kids got along which was great, and they still do which is great. However, when you make friendships on proximity alone, they are not really friendships in most cases. In most cases, it tends to be people that are close to you that really the only thing tying you together is where you live. These relationships have a much harder time because you are not choosing your friends wisely. I am very different from the people that live around me. For one, My family and I are from Canada, not the United States where we currently live. We have different interests and don't tend to get too much into neighborhood drama or have a "keeping up with the Jones" mentality. We are also a mixed race family, and we believe that one of the neighbors at least might be a tad racist. So as the group started to grow a bit you start to notice the differences more and more. I am okay with that. I do feel though that it is starting to grow apart a bit, I am also okay with that because I think we are just forcing ourselves to be friends.
But, it gets you thinking about things a bit more.
You are worth more than staying in one-sided friendships
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One-sided friendships are friendships where one person is doing the majority in the friendship. It is where one friend is more excited, more dedicated to the friendship. If you are the one on the one side being a friend while the other is kind of sucking at being a friend in all regards, then honestly you deserve better. There are many people out there and you just have to find some new ones. Let people see the awesomeness that is YOU. I know that times like that can make people feel closed off and be more cautious towards new people and friends and not share themselves, but I also have to say try not to do that. It can hurt thinking you have a friend and it turns out you are the only one in it. So, move on. Allow yourself that freedom. Or if you can't do that for one reason or another then stop trying as much and use the friendship for the utility it provides.
That's all I wanted to share for today.
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