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I have lovingly been granted the title "Steemit Psychiatrist" by several Steemians. People are drawn to me for advice, and I enjoy helping. I am by no means a doctor of any sort, but I will happily talk things through with you, and share my insight if it is relevant.

But get this one thing straight: I don't shrink heads, I empower souls :)

I have been asked more than once to begin an advice column, and this question I found in my inbox last week sealed the deal. I feel this gentleman's question is one that many men ask and all should know the answer. Therefore, I am starting Steemits very own Ask Kitten advice column!

Dear Kitten,

My wife and I got married after we found out she was pregnant. We have only been dating 10 months but it felt right. We are right for each other, she is like my missing puzzle piece. We never fight and I love her very much. I see myself growing old with her.

At least the above used to be true.

As soon as we got married she turned into a completely different person! She is always mad at me for anything- if my sock misses the hamper she yells at me for an hour! It's getting to where I don't want to come home at night because I know she's going to go off on me for something stupid and little. My friends say that's what happens in marriage, that the girl changes and shows her true colors, but it cannot be this different, can it? And I've heard that pregnancy hormones make a girl crazy, is that true?

I don't know what to do, I want to support her and be there for her but she's driving me crazy.

Scared Husband

Dear Scared Husband,

Picture this- you have a rapidly growing thing inside you. It is forcing you to eat strange foods, changing your body structure and making parts painful, using your bladder as a boxing bag at the most inopportune moments, causing you to vomit uncontrollably, making you change your television viewing habits, and completely turning your entire reality inside out.

You'd be a little miffed too ;)

Pregnancy hormones are very real, and how drastically they change a woman, even from one moment to the next, is alarmingly profound. I love horror and thriller films, but when I was pregnant I just couldn't watch them. Nope. I also had this undeniable need to change every room in the house by rearranging furniture, buying wall hangings and throws, then I would go back through and completely change everything yet a different way when I thought I was finished. This is called "nesting" and you cannot control it. Nor could I control my emotions. I would cry like a baby from an insurance commercial. Then suddenly get exceedingly irritated at the shirt I was wearing, which just a moment ago was my favorite shirt.

Your wife is growing a tiny human inside her. It is also producing its own hormones. All these hormones are creating a healthy little person but giving your wife an alternate personality. And if this is her first pregnancy, remember this is all new and scary for her, too. She cannot control all these changes and emotions she is experiencing.

This is an important time because stress is bad for the baby. You have to bite your tongue and keep reminding yourself it is not her, it's the hormones! Remember, it's not personal! She does not mean anything she says or does, (well, not most of it) it is beyond her control.

She needs your help and support right now. You will have to do a lot of apologizing for things beyond your control, and you're going to have to do a lot of agreeing. However difficult it may seem, she needs you. The patience you learn to exercise now will help a thousandfold when your mini me arrives :)

Congratulations Daddy to Be! You're going to be a good one.

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