Relationship Tips #13 Is her love language "Receiving Gifts" or she...

The third love language, Receiving Gifts. Does your partner feels extremely delighted when you gave her a gift? Or she keeps asking you to buy her gifts? Or something else?

Find out what is your partner's primary love language here.

Her primary love language could be Receiving Gifts but she could just be materialistic.

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How to distinguish between the two?

There are few areas you should consider.

Her intention asking for gifts
The way she treated the gift
The way she treated you if you didn't give
The specifics of the gift she wanted
Your feelings when you buy and give the gift

Disclaimer: I am using "she" as a reference only, for convenience and understanding. Feel free to interpret as a "he" if your partner is a man.

1. What's her intention or reason asking for the gift?

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When she answered,

"It's been a long time since I've received a gift from you"
versus
"I want you to buy this because my friend has it."

The latter varies but the former usually doesn't change much.

Note: You might need to ask more questions to find out the real intention.

2. How does she treat the gift after 3 months?

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3 months because that is usually the declining period of excitement if your partner is materialistic. They'll get bored of your gifts fast.

If after 3 months, your partner still looks at the gift and reminded of you/your love, "Receiving Gifts" is her love language.

3. How does she treat you if you don't want/forget to give her something?

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Throwing a little trantrum is normal. Your partner is simply looking for your expression of love. She'll continue to show her love to you, hoping that you reciprocate.

But if she is controlling you to buy things for her, watch out.

"If you love me, you'll buy this for me."
"I'll dump you if you don't buy this."
"I'll be super sad if I don't have this handbag"

4. Does she wanted something specific or something general?

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If she requested or demanded something specific, most likely she wants that gift only.

If she didn't request anything specific, it is your demonstration of love that matters to her. Not the gift.

5. How do you feel when you buy and give the gift to her?

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If you feel happy, you're in a positive relationship and most likely, you're meeting her emotional needs.

If you feel fear, you're only being controlled and meeting her materialistic needs.

To decide if she is looking for love from YOU or not, she has to fulfill all of the 5 areas as "Love Language", not "Materialistic".

Share in the comments below on your thoughts,

How would you decide if your partner is materialistic or simply enjoys receiving gifts because that's your partner's love language?
Have you had relationships that you need to decide between the two?
How would you handle a materialistic relationship?

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Relationship Tips #13 Is her love language "Receiving Gifts" or she's just plainly materialistic?

How to distinguish between the two?

1. What's her intention or reason asking for the gift?

2. How does she treat the gift after 3 months?

3. How does she treat you if you don't want/forget to give her something?

4. Does she wanted something specific or something general?

5. How do you feel when you buy and give the gift to her?

To decide if she is looking for love from YOU or not, she has to fulfill all of the 5 areas as "Love Language", not "Materialistic".

Share in the comments below on your thoughts,

Getting Started with Love Language

Love Language #1 Words of Affirmation

Love Language #2 Quality Time